Dealing with death
Like birth, death is an inescapable part of life. Fears and taboos mean that this subject is often ignored and the necessary discussions are avoided.
But dealing with death is important in the context of coping with grief.
According to the latest findings in grief research, people who address the subjects of death and dying are better able to deal with the loss of a loved one, and come to terms with their grief more quickly.
The basic principle is that it is best to acknowledge your feelings of grief and speak of your sorrow with loved ones. Giving voice to your thoughts helps them to become more ordered and if your feelings are expressed in words, this can have a positive effect on processing these emotions. However, some people prefer to process their grief in silence. In some cases, forcing them to “talk about it” can even have negative effects, as their grief can be strengthened by remembering the deceased too often. You should give careful thought to what will be of most help to you in this situation.
Many people who are grieving feel a pronounced need for quiet and will actually withdraw into themselves after the death of a relative. However, others find it helpful to return to their usual routine as soon as possible, meeting with friends and family members and carrying on with life as much as possible just as they did before the death. Periods of activity can replace periods of withdrawal, sometimes even quite suddenly. Getting out into nature, seeking a place of remembrance and other personal rituals can help in dealing with the emerging feelings of grief.
Take the opportunity of the funeral ceremony to say your farewells. As your funeral home, we are here to help and are committed to your individual wishes and requests. Find out more about clothing for the funeral.
Friends and relatives of the bereaved often do not know how to deal with the situation and, in the worst cases, may even withdraw from the grieving person. This can be a very painful experience for those who are suffering a loss. If you wish to support a grieving friend or relative, you should offer your company and tell them quite clearly “I am here for you, if you need me.”
Most people have an innate ability to overcome sorrow successfully, whether quickly or over a longer period of time. Do yourself a favour and take all the time you need. However, you should gradually try to look ahead and carry on with your life.
If you would like to talk, but don’t have anyone to talk with, or if you are feeling overwhelmed by grief and can’t seem to recover, then you should seek help. The Caritas Socialis, pastors or grief counsellors can offer you effective support.